Posted by: Cricket | on November 25, 2010
You don’t have to take my advice, or the advice of someone 300 miles away. If dance is really what you want to do – go somewhere or train with someone that will respect you, understands the genre and the terminology of the dance you perform in.
Learn technique, learn the terminology. Find those instructors who know how to teach all the levels. When you really search them out, you will find there aren’t as many as you thought.
What you also need to decide is whether or not the clic~ is more important than the dance? Who do you want yelling at you – inexperienced or experienced trainers? It’s a no brainer.
Is being on a team the most important thing to you? Or, are you the solo type?
Deciding to dance on a school sponsored team, or a studio team, can make a big difference in your life. If you are on a team (school or studio) and you spend more days being miserable than happy – it’s probably time for a change. You need to decide as a young adult what really fits your personality, your needs, and your comfort zone. You have decisions to make!
Do you want to be a part of a team because you enjoy dance, or because you want to be part of a social clic~? Is your team friendly? Does it have fair policies? Does your team have a trained instructor?
If your team does not seem to be up to the levels of the past, that can be very discouraging. It’s hard to continue being a part of something that may looked “stalled”. You come back each year, to see the same poor judging, the same types of unexperienced coaches or assistances; and the same types of choreographers that just don’t put together winning material. Counting those things on your fingers yet?
There are options to getting your dance career off the “stalled” block. You don’t have to be on the discouraging end. I would hope there are studios in your area that you could explore as an options. All it takes is four or five really dedicated dancers to pull away from a “stalled” team and create their own winning team. I’m not talking about building a new studio either – just get floor space, and a name to dance under. Pay the fees; buy the jacket “feel good again”. Be careful however, not all studios are created equal, and may be below your level, and can pull you down quickly.
Just about any studio would love to have you, if you really want to be there. But, don’t be wishy – washy. Don’t bring any past problems with you either. You shouldn’t be looking to destroy anything, or bring any names into play, when you finally decide to leave your current team. You just have to let your coaches know that you feel like you could learn more someplace else. Don’t feel guilty about it either. Leave on good terms. Burning bridges behind you leaves scars. So don’t do that please.
There are people who get into positions just so they can boss people around. It’s that need to control. They don’t mind telling you about it either. Not a good way to be. If someone is a professional or semi-professional dancer, they have probably earned the right to say “I’m in charge”. But, the average dancer, or instructors who teach outside their own genre, has to learn that being a dance authority has added responsibilities that may be over their head. Instructors who teach outside their own genre will struggle. It’s not a nature flow, and things will not right themselves. You have to teach what you know.
There is always the parental aspect of any decision that is made by those still underage. My suggestion is to take your parent with you to the new studio, school, or location you are interested in. Generally if a dancer can win over the parent, they pretty much get what they want. But winning over a parent takes craft. I say that because, there are a lot of parents that are tired of hearing their student come home with stories of nepotism, favoritism, elitism, and cruelty from dance practices.
Sometimes parents have to endure these complaints month after month. This is what your directors and school administrators are there for – to deal with these issues. But a lot of parents are just as afraid as their student. Too afraid to make waves.. The mind set is to just get it over with. The sad part is – you don’t. You have to make choices somewhere along the line. Hopefully parents and dancer can make those choices together.
I’m not real fond of people quitting mid-stream. It is always better to not begin in the first place – if you are the wishy-washy kind. No offense – but hey, I like dedicated dancers. Most trainers do!
You have to evaluate what it is you really want. Going with the flow will only get you more of the same. You need to have the guts to help yourself. Stand committed. FINISH!
*You don’t have to challenge any authority – leave on good terms
*You don’t have to stay on a loser team – excel somewhere else
*You can pick where you want to train in most cases – school or studio
There can be just as many competitions available at a studio as there are on a school team. Generally more at a studio. You still can go to the games!Your possibilities are endless – but you have to take the first step. Pick that thing that will bring you peace throughout the year – not despair.
Good luck dancers.
I hope you pick wisely.